One of the things that Abraham talks about is what they call, “Not giving a rip what anyone else thinks.”

I’ve found this to be great advice. Most of us have been brought up to feel that how other people see us is very important. To care deeply about what other people think about us.

In the beginning, even though I “understood” that it really doesn’t matter what other people think about me or my actions, it was challenging to actually start feeling that it didn’t matter.

Old habit of thought.

In recent CDs, Abraham have been talking about a technique which I find very powerful and very effective.

They say, if you feel like someone is doing something or being a certain way that’s really bothering you, to do this. Take out a pad of paper. At the top of the paper, write this down:

“What are the thoughts that I am thinking right now about what you are doing, that are keeping me from my alignment?”

They never go beyond this. For the simple reason that simply saying this, or writing it down, turns the power back over to you. It makes you remember that while you can’t control the situation and you can’t control other people, you CAN control how you’re feeling.

I’ve found this to be a very effective and empowering process. You don’t even have to write it down.

Try it and see. When someone annoys you or is doing something that’s bothering you - as happens every now and then in most relationships - ask yourself, “What are the thoughts that I am thinking right now about what you are doing, that are keeping me from my alignment?”

You’ll probably find, like me, that it reminds you that the way you’re feeling right now isn’t because someone else made you feel this way. It reminds you that YOU are thinking thoughts about what someone else is doing that’s keeping you from alignment. And it reminds you that YOU have the power to change those thoughts.