Someone I love who’s going through a challenging situation right now has discovered the Secret, and I’ve been helping her work with the Law of Attraction in her life.

And she kept saying something that really made me think.

“How can I be happy, happy, happy, when I’m feeling so miserable?” she asked.

If you’ve been reading a lot about the Law of Attraction - online, in books, watching the Secret - I wouldn’t be surprised if you were somehow picking up on the message, too, that in order to make the Law of Attraction work for you, you have to be “happy, happy, happy”.

But guess what?

You DON’T Have to Be Happy, or in Bliss, or Filled with Joy Right This Minute

Does that surprise you?

Yet it’s so true.

If you’re feeling miserable, or depressed, I can bet that you’re probably going to feel even more miserable or depressed because you want so much to bring the power of LOA into your life, but you don’t feel like you’re within range of even a mildly happy thought.

Another failure, right?

Wrong.

It’s All About Feeling BETTER - Even Slightly

The next time you get the impression from a book or an article that you need to “shape up” and be happy, relax. Sure, feeling happiness, being in bliss, filled with joy, these are all great things, and if you feel that way, guess what? You’ll be happy, feel blissful and joyful.

All very wonderful things.

But sometimes you’ll find yourself feeling depressed, or miserable, or just plain NOT happy, and if you find yourself in such a space, you don’t have to beat yourself up. There’s nothing to get frustrated about.

You’re doing fine. All is well. Truly.

Just Aim for the Thought That Makes You Feel Even Slightly Better

It’s all about the better feeling thought. And as Abraham-Hicks says, no-one expects you to jump from depression all the way over to happiness and bliss.

And really, if you’re new to giving yourself self-love and the permission to feel good, and you do think you’ve made that “jump” from being miserable right into being downright happy, you just might be happy-stickering (another Abeism). Putting a happy sticker on what you’re really feeling.

The thing is, the better feeling thought doesn’t have to make you feel a whole lot better. Just a little bit better works fine.

It’s about small steps. It’s about building on your previous feelings. And while it may not seem that way to you when you’re feeling miserable, if you can change your habit of thought so that you aim to always feel a little bit better, and then a little better than that, and then a little bit better than that … you’re well on your way to breaking out the bliss.

You’re building on your previous feelings. You’re not staying stuck where you are. You ARE shifting your feelings, just a bit at a time.

Stick with it. It works.